When a loved one is gone, it is then when we begin the litany of “should have”. Rather than what we did do, we start making a list of our shortcomings…should have said…should have did…should have…should have…a litany of regret.
Maybe, some of it holds water and maybe we should have, but once they are gone, there isn’t anything we can do about it except to let it go. Focus on the good memories…focus on the good times…focus on those moments that could never be replaced. I believe that’s the way they would want it.